Ever wished you could get a fresh start?

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to stop the clock and start it again as a "new" person? Over the years coaching and counselling people I have heard the phrase "stop the world I want to get off" repeated many times over. Is this you?

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I guess you have had similar thoughts or you wouldn't be reading this now. Do not despair. It IS possible to start your life anew. To reinvigorate yourself and, in effect, become a new person.

Here are some simple steps that will get you started. If you want more why not contact me and book your initial consultation? It is free and there is no obligation. Book here

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Step 1: Be honest with yourself. 
If you really do want to change and start afresh then you must be honest with yourself about what it is that is not working for you. If you lie then really the only person you kid and hurt is yourself, and we don't want that.

Step 2: Write a list of the areas you most want to change.
Think about exactly what it is that you don't like about yourself. Here are some areas previous clients of mine have struggled with to help you:

• you get angry easily 
• you become rude and aggressive, maybe even violent when angry
• you feel nobody listens to you
• you feel nobody values you
• no matter how hard you work you never seem to get the breaks
• you find it hard to make friends
• you feel you are a hard person to like
• you never seem to make progress
• you give up too easily, even when you really want something

Did any of these ring any bells with you? or maybe there is some other aspect of your life where you feel you are failing?

The good news is that it is possible to change, help is available if you want it. Lets have a quick look at how you can start...

Step 3: Become aware of your triggers
Now that you know the areas you want to change in your life. The next step is to become aware when you engage in the behaviours you don't like, and immediately think what caused you to react in the way you did. It can be a good idea to carry a small notebook with you at all times so that you can jot down what these triggers are.

Step 4: Identify the emotions around the triggers
This step can be tricky on your own, that is why there are counsellors and life coaches to help you. What you need to do here is really think carefully about the triggers for the behaviours you want to change and ask yourself why does that situation / tone / words "get at you" so much? Is there some childhood event that it reminds you of?

Step 5: Resolve the issues behind the triggers
Again this step can be difficult if you chose to go it alone, but once you have searched for the reasons behind the trigger then you need to change your view of the reason. In other words, change how you think of the event or situation that caused you to become sad / angry / hopeless etc
There are many techniques available to do this, one simple one you might like to try is to try and put yourself in the other person's shoes and ask yourself why they might be behaving in that way. Often when we gain an understanding of why someone does something that annoys or upsets us it can be easier to change our reaction.

Take it slow with these steps, and remember support is available if you want it.