fear that can come with feeling stressed? or do you effortlessly sail through your day without a care? Few do.
There are really just three things we can do when we feel stressed. I call it the triple A approach.
So what are these three A's?....
Alter the situation or your approach to it.
If you find yourself in a situation that you have little or no control over and can not get away from but find highly stressful. Then the healthy option is to change the way you perceive that situation. It is either that or continue feeling stressed and give the situation even more power over you.
You can alter your approach by:
· Thinking positively and having a positive attitude. Try making a list of 5 things that are good about the situation. This may be a struggle but worth it in the end as it can help change your perspective on a difficult situation that you can not avoid.
· Improving specific skills that will help you manage the situation, for example perhaps learning some problem solving techniques or some negotiation skills.
Doing something differently
There are also some appropriate and inappropriate actions to consider when altering a situation. Make sure that the benefit will be worth the effort in the long term. For example, you may want to take a different route to avoid traffic, but if that route will take you 40 minutes out of your way and cause more stress, it may not be worth it.
Make sure that your actions are helpful and kind to all involved. Adding negativity to your life will not help reduce stress.
Avoid the situation.
The second A stands for Avoid. If drinking coffee gives you indigestion, and causes you stress and embarrassment at work, don’t drink coffee!
This A is all about identifying the things that you needlessly stress about, and how to remove those items from your life
One of the most powerful tools for avoiding a stressful situation is the Positive No. This tool enables you to say no in a way that maintains control over the situation, but does so in a constructive, assertive way.
The Positive No comes in several forms.
Accept the situation.
Our third A will help us deal with those things in life that just need to be done, even though they are unpleasant. Accepting the situation as it is, and being as positive as possible about it, is what this third A is all about. You can even use some of the principles from the first A to alter your attitude and make the situation a little less stressful!
If you have no choice but to continue with a stressful situation then you can chose to continue to fight it or accept it. Acceptance brings with it a calmness, a peace to the soul that can reduce those feelings associated with stress.
If you have to accept a stressful situation then it would be a good idea to engage in stress relieving techniques.
The foundation to stress relief revolves around these 3 core elements:
– diet exercise sleep
Diet: Make sure you are eating healthily. Perhaps find a recipe for a healthy smoothie you will enjoy or simply cut out the fatty fast foods.
Exercise: Spending just 10 minutes a day walking can bring immense relief from stress, especially if you combine it with a simply stress relieving technique. Check out my free video to learn this technique.
Sleep: How much sleep are you getting a night? Spending a night awake, fitful with your mind racing over the problem is only going to increase your stress. Try some relaxation exercises to help you get off to sleep or buy my relaxation audio to listen to and help you doze off to a deeply refreshing sleep. Often when we wake from a really deep sleep we find the world looks brighter and what previously might have seemed insurmountable now looks manageable.